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Bought off from Amazon in April 2019, my not-so-loved* TS-228A died last week. i went back home and just found it turned off, and it never got back to life. no led lights, not even any of those annoying beeps... just nothing. Power adapter seems to not be the source of the problem, i tried with another one with same specs and same result, nothing happened. Furthermore, i am now left with two HDDs (RAID1) that i seem to be unable to mount anywhere (tried ubuntu, raspbian, mac os if it matters and even windows and none of those recognise the format) and reading some qnap focused forum or doing a simple google search, i am realizing i won't be able to easily get my data back. Luckily i do have a partial backup, let's say for an 70-80% of the stuff i had on those HDDs but i miss some data since QTS wasn't able to complete the task that time i made that "just in case..." copy (rsync kept crashing...) I tried to contact the qnap support early in the afternoon but we are still at the first steps (the "have you tried to turn it off and on again?" step). Let's see what happens. In the meantime if you guys have any advice (no i won't buy another qnap thing and plug my hdds, thanks) to recover my data, you are very welcome!! *leaving out this particular episode, i am still not very impressed with the purchase, and honestly like i mentioned i won't buy another Qnap thing in the future. I know, mine was an entry-evel product and the top tier offer will be probably/hopefully on another level, but the overall feeling is that i got a very low spec (and faulty!) hardware with a very bloated/heavy OS. I mean it's obviously a personal feeling, but i paid 180$ for basically a 35$ piece of hardware (the price of a basic 1GB ram raspberry pi) with a standard piece of software obviously not suited/optimized for that specific weak hardware. Tons of unnecessary features, animations (that robot sitting in the main desktop supposed to "clean up the system") and an overall system instability
2020.09.29 02:04 jimmynudetron69AITA for getting a "broke college kid" towed from my apartment complex?
This situation has been ongoing for several weeks now, and since getting this person towed, I'm second-guessing myself. I moved to a great apartment in the beginning of August that I was so excited about. I absolutely love the place. I graduated college in December, got a nice job, and am thrilled to be distanced from the college scene even just a little bit. The only downfall of the place is the parking. They over-leased the complex and there's not enough spots for every tenant. Not even close. I often have to park down the street in a nearby neighborhood about a quarter mile from the complex. Right in front of my building there are about 15 spots. They are almost always taken. However, there is one spot that people, including myself, often turn into that appears to be vacant, only to discover that there's actually a small motorcycle taking it up. It's the ultimate tease. I believe #MotorcycleLivesMatter, so this is no issue to me. The issue is the motorcycle has not moved in two months. It does not run. And because it takes up the whole spot, it offers a free reserved spot to this person's roommate who actually has a working vehicle. He just slips in right next to it no matter what time of day he arrives home. This is extremely frustrating for me when I arrive home at 7:00 to find no parking after a long work day. I recently left a note on the guys bike and tried my best to be completely pleasant and non passive aggressive. I found the note crumbled in the mulch the next day. I ran into him arriving home from work a couple days later and mentioned that I saw he crumbled my note. I explained why I think the bike should be moved and he was super understanding and seemed cool about it. The next day while reading on my balcony (literally directly above his parking spot), I watched him walk his bike 180 degrees to make it look like it had been driven and returned. He and his roommate were talking about how I was a "Karen" and a litany of other words that he definitely didn't want me to hear. So I decided to call the office and let them know there was a non-running vehicle taking up a high-demand spot. The next day they towed his bike. He left me a message on the apartment's online forum that he was saving to get the bike fixed and as a "broke college kid" he couldn't afford to get it out of the tow yard. My roommate says I'm a dick and I actually feel pretty bad. AITA?
2020.09.29 02:00 Ulri_kah_kah_kahHow many Gain Stages/Pedals do you use?
Obviously been pouring over forums about this. I've never particularly been a gain guy, more of a modulation man. But now I can't help but want more flavours of dirt on my board. I mainly play indie folk stuff, but love a bit of gristle on it. My gain currently goes > Fuzz War > Hudson Broadcast > SSBS Fuck > Reverberation Machine (this one doesn't really count). Looking to add Prince of Tone clone and a Fuzz Factory. Just wondering what you all have out there.
2020.09.29 01:58 TrendyBastardLong Running OOTP 6.5 League Looking For GMs, Possible new 6.5 league starting in 2005!
I'm not sure if advertising leagues is allowed here. My apologies if not. A long running OOTP 6.5 league is looking for new GMs to come join our community and play along with us. We have a large group of players who have been with the league for dozens of seasons. The game is currently at the trade deadline in the 2077 season. The commissioner prefers GMs to own the game for exporting(around $30 to purchase licenses for both games), but also allows manual changes to be sent in via PM. Trades, extensions, and discussions take place on the forums. The league has 8 current openings in a 30 team league. The current sim schedule is typically 3 sims a week occuring on Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday evenings. Yes, OOTP 6.5 is a dinosaur, but we all still love it even though the game is 15+ years old! League Reports League Forum The forums also have a sign up for a possible new OOTP 6.5 league that would be starting on Opening Day of 2005. The league would start with 24 teams and rosters and rules mirroring what was current to 2005. The league is currently going through testing and would start as soon as enough interest is given on the forums. Please come check us out and join the forums if you are interested! We'd love to have any experienced or new players come join us!
How many wizards and witches still identify as geeks/nerds? I'm curious cos I'm sure the world of geeky hobbies and it's subcultures used to be sort of sanctuary for many outcasts. I mean, obviously not now, where depending on how you look at it, either the (older) outcasts got pushed out of their own turf or they just "levelled up" to become part of the mainstream (and those older outcasts who didn't lay down roots in any fandom are just on the outside now). Just been thinking about how a cosy little world it must have been (before becoming ultra-mainstream), LGSs, anime clubs in schools and colleges, LAN parties, conventions, the cosplaying, singing karaoke to j-pop and anime intros etc when it was just smaller groups, and groups of friends trying to create a small space for like-minded people with the same interests. Amateur, makeshift, dorky but genuine. You can see it in old youtube videos and photos of old conventions on old (and defunct) forums that I used to visit. I'm half way sure that you can even hear it in some old anime dubs where the production values were super low and the voices were done by amateurs and sometimes the OP song was even translated (awkwardly) and sung by said amateurs. They probably were "my people" but they weren't near me (there were literally no subcultures or scenes where I grew up but that's another post). I should have went full internet retard and gone to meetups and cons through internet forums when it was still uncool. I don't really identify as a geek anymore. It's funny though I did make some last ditch efforts a few years back, to try and find "my people" but I found out I was WAAAAAY too late. I decided to go to a couple of LGSs that was holding a TCG box release, one was filled with hipsters and I felt out of place so I left and the other was literally just 4 old men with their grandkids so I didn't even enter. I went to a con, which was a bittersweet experience, I went when media companies were starting to hog more and more of the convention space but there was still just enough of what the original experience of what con was before the takeover. I watched cosplay and karaoke competition at the con; an enjoyable experience but I sat there being envious at the groups of friends on the stage. (FYI: I didn't go to the con by myself, I'm not completely mental). I went to one more but the next one was just basically at that point it was almost completely just advertising the latest movies and shows. Last thing I promise: I was talking to someone online not too long ago; similar tastes, similarly super nerdy in the old way, similar position in life, similarly melancholic but exactly the type of person I would have loved to met before. Had enjoyable conversations but it was like ships passing in the night. Kinda convinced me that one of the key things in life is finding "your people" before it's no longer possible.
2020.09.29 01:16 ScorpianyTheGOAT★ Quick Review of the Tanks in the Premium Footlockers + Best "Strategy" to use ★
So it seems that WG decided that a fun gamemode can't go without monetization, and they've added "Footlockers" (Read: Lootboxes) for purchase. It is extremely important to note: You are NOT guaranteed to get your money's worth - In fact, most boxes you open are going to be a BAD VALUE. These are NOT like the Christmas boxes where there was at minimum equal value in the box as what you paid for it. The Halloween "Footlockers" rely soley on the CHANCE of you getting a Premium tank. WarGaming has not released numbers for the chances to get a Premium tank, but based on all of the unboxing videos / posts I've seen, the chance seems to be around 1 in 25 (4%). In theory, that doesn't seem too bad, with each box also having the ability to be rerolled. However, the actual value of the contents inside is another story. Let's start with the best "strategy" to get the absolute most out of the boxes. (Want to read this guide with better formatting? I post all of my content to the NA Forums. This one is hyperlined here) ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
To maximize your chance of getting the Premium tanks without ruining the potential value you'd get from them, in theory you should reroll every box that doesn't have a Premium tank once, and once only. However, since not all of the Premiums are very good, plus there's no guarantee you'll get a Premium tank at all, you should most likely: Keep:
5 credit boosters
Personal training manual
3 days of Premium (reroll if you have plenty of Premium already)
350,000 credits (reroll if you're swimming in credits already)
Everything else that is not a Premium tank.
Do not reroll a box more than once. Each one contains 100 Gold, which is enough to reroll it once without losing more Gold than you "earned". This will prevent you from losing more money than you already would if you don't get Premiums, and will maximize the value you get if you do get Premiums from the boxes. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Mini-Reviews of all of the Premium Tanks available:
We're going to quickly do a rundown of each of the Premium tanks offered, providing a 0-10 rating and a very quick description of the most notable features of the tank. T77 Heavy: 7.5/10 [Very Good] The T77 Heavy is in many ways like a Tier 8 version of the T57 Heavy, except it doesn't have any of the DPM. The T77's gun is unreliable with an extremely long reload. However, it has the ability to unload 1,080 damage within 4 seconds of the first shell, which is absolutely devastating at Tier 8. The rest of the tank is mediocre all around, with unreliable armor, somewhat poor view range, and somewhat sluggish mobility. However, the mobility is enough to get it in and out of important positions, and allows the gun to work wonders. It's kind of like the Bourrasque in that regard - A very unreliable gun on a mostly underwhelming platform, that works surprisingly well because of the monstrous damage potential. Of course, this tank plays entirely differently in comparison to the Bourrasque, but it's actually a good tank to get from the boxes. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- M4A1 Revalorise: 5/10 [Average] The tank has definitely suffered hard from powercreep, but its still a reasonably okay tank. The gun is punchy and relatively reliable, and the tank has gun depression to make it work. Everything else about the tank is forgettable, and the armor resembles French bread more than French armor. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- AMX CDA 105:7/10 [Very Good] Most people brush the AMX CDA off, but the gun that it has on such a mobile and stealthy platform makes it feel like a very playable version of the Strv S1. Sure, the Strv S1's gun is even better with even more gun depression, but the Siege Mode mechanic makes it very inflexible and difficult to play on matchups where you can't just sit back and snipe. The AMX CDA 105 on the other hand, is able to keep contributing to the battle, relocating and even being able to get up close and personal if it needs to. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- STG: 5/10 [Average] The STG is kind of like the M4A1 Revalorise - A forgettable tank and platform, with a rather solid gun. The STG sacrifices some of the mobility of the M4 to gain armor. It sacrifices the gun depression to get a stealthy low profile. Its shell velocity is traded off for better accuracy. It's just as average as the M4 Rev is, but offers a different playstyle for the same alpha gun, in case the M4 Rev wasn't quite your cup of tea. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ELC Even 90: 4/10 [Poor] If I were to rate this tank objectively, especially with the new equipment that's in the game, the ELC Even 90 offers a level of scouting potential that no other light tank at Tier 8 offers. Such a small, low profile tank, especially with the new equipment, is able to spot tanks from positions that nothing else could, while also having a gun that can hit surprisingly hard if you can get the entire magazine off. That being said, the gun is... Abysmal. It's one of the worst guns on any Tier 8 tank in the game, and ELC Even 90 players consistently average less damage in the tank, than they would in a Tier 6 tank. The gun is truly horrific, and the tank only works because of the scouting potential, combined with small size with a 660 damage potential magazine. A good player can make the tank work reasonably well, but as I've said in many previous ELC Even 90 reviews [hyperlinked here], the tank just doesn't have the carry potential that other Tier 8 light tanks do. You're rolling the dice each time you play it whether or not you'll get a map where the tank can work, whether you'll find good light / medium tank players on the enemy team that can counter you, and whether or not your gun will decide to hit a tank 20 meters in front of you. You might love the tank - A lot of people do... But it's kind of like the Tog II in that regard - It's a giant rolling meme... Or I guess in this case, a tiny go-cart meme. It's not actually good... But it can be fun if you get the right scenario. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Strv S1: 6/10 [Good] The Strv S1 as I mentioned earlier, is a less flexible version of the AMX CDA 105, that has a better gun, better camo and better gun depression. That being said, because of the Siege Mode mechanic, in most circumstances the AMX CDA 105 will have more carry potential, and be a far more enjoyable tank to play - On top of making more credits. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- FV4202: 3/10 [Very Bad] The FV4202 never was a particularly good tank, even when it was a Tier 10 medium, but as a Tier 8 Premium tank in 2020, it is particularly bad. The armor is pretty decent, but the mobility is on the sluggish side, and the gun is just a joke and a half. 1700 DPM for a tank with 230 alpha, and a shockingly unreliable gun (despite what the paper stats would make you believe), is not a good combination. Combine that with poor gun handling on the move, and you're not in for a pleasant experience. The hull armor is pretty troll, but the turret is pretty easily penetrated by anything with 220mm of pen or more. Using your gun depression helps to some extent, but because the turret is so large, and has so many flat zones, even when you're completely hull-down using all 10 degrees of gun depression, the armor still doesn't hold up as well as you'd hope, and the gun will just disappoint you over and over again. It is a bad tank, and one of the worst ones in this list. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- T-54 first prototype:5.5/10 [Average] The T-54 Prototype is sadly just a worse version of the T-44-100. Everything about the T-54 Prototype is significantly worse with the only exception being the armor, but even the armor is hardly much to write home about. The turret is still the weakest part of the tank, and having the same shape and size as the T-44-100 turret, with similar armor effectiveness, it defeats the purpose of the T-54 Prototype even moreso. The only well-armored part of the tank is the hull, but even that only works if the enemy can't shoot down on it using gun depression, and if the enemy has less than the average of 220mm of pen at Tier 8. It's a decent enough tank, but it's just pointless compared to the T-44-100. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hwk 30: 6/10 [Good] The Hwk 30 isn't particularly great, but it feels in many ways like the RU 251 at Tier 8, which is pretty nice. The gun is solid, the mobility is good and it's reasonably stealthy with great view range. It just can't compete with the LT-432 or EBR 75, which makes it somewhat pointless to own. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- T92: 4/10 [Bad] How quickly things have changed, huh? When this tank first came out, I would have told you it's a pretty good light tank. Powercreep has hit this tank hard, and the new equipment only makes it even less relevant than it otherwise would be. The T92 doesn't really benefit from the new equipment nearly as much as some of the other light tanks do, since it's such a one-trick pony by comparison. It has god-Tier levels of gun handling on the move, but sacrifices a whole lot to get it. The acceleration is great, but a limited top speed really holds it back, and it would be a waste of a Turbocharger in some ways if you chose to go that route. The tank just doesn't have anything to compete with the best Tier 8 medium tanks, which hurt it far more than other Tier 8 light tanks do. You might still have some fun tanks zipping around and snapping shells in, but just pray you don't find a Lansen C, Progetto 46, or Bourrasque on the enemy team... Because otherwise, they'll be the ones having fun snacking on you. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- IS-6: 4.5/10 [Bad] 2014 called, they want their tank back. While it's true that the IS-6 got a much-needed armor buff that actually makes the armor surprisingly decent for a Tier 8 Heavy (even if we ignore its Pref MM), the gun still is abysmal and holds it back significantly compared to most other Tier 8 heavies. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- T26E4 SuperPershing: 7/10 [Very Good] Unlike the IS-6, the Super Pershing's armor buff and gun buff brought it right back to being a rather competitive tank. While you do still need to shoot plentiful of APCR to make the most out of it, the armor holds up really well which allows you to let the gun work. Unlike the IS-6, the Super Pershing's gun is actually pretty good, with good gun depression, decent enough accuracy and aiming times, and reasonable enough gun handling. Combine that with really good APCR pen, and you can not only play like a heavy tank, but you can outplay heavy tanks too. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Kanonenjagdpanzer 105:5/10 [Average] We can see where this is going... Of the 3 105mm Tank Destroyers on this list, the Kanonen is at the bottom of the barrel. The Kanonen may not have to deal with Siege Mode like the Strv S1 does, but it's in many ways worse than the AMX CDA 105 - Which defeats the purpose of playing such a tank. The AMX CDA 105 is a more flexible Strv S1, with many good characteristics to still allow the gun to perform really well. The Kanonen 105 is very vulernable though with its complete lack of armor and poor gun handling on the move. This makes it much less flexible than the AMX CDA 105, and means it doesn't have the redeeming characteristics it needs to be a viable alternative to the Strv S1. Not to mention, the hp/ton is much worse on the Kanonen, which means it isn't as fast as you might hope, relying mostly on its top speed and traverse speed to get around, not so much its acceleration. It's definitely not as bad as the Kanonen 90... But that's not saying much, considering just how bad that tank actually was. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Vk 168.01 (P): 4/10 [Bad] Apparently we're still calling unskinned tanks a new Premium tank. I thought this was 2020, not 2016 / 2017? Anyway, the VK 168.01 P is an armored tank with a hard hitting gun, that's as slow as a brick house floating through a river of molasses. It's not going anywhere anytime soon, and if you do manage to make it to the battle, your team has probably already lost. It's just a worse version of the VK 100.01 P, except they're charging you money for it. No thanks. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Lowe: 8.5/10 [Great] While I no longer rate the Lowe 10/10 as I used to, it is still a really good tank that still manages to hold up really well in the current meta. The gun is punchy and reliable, the gun depression works really well with very solid turret armor, and the hull is still fairly usable so long as you can hide your lower plate. The Lowe is a great credit grinder, with decent carry potential. It's not flashy, and it's not the most fun tank, but it works and it works well. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- WZ-120-1G FT: 9/10 [Amazing] This is one of the few tanks in the Chinese line that actually stands out as being a really good tank. The DPM is insanely good, the armor is surprisingly solid, the tank is really stealthy and low profile, it's pretty quick with an extremely fast traverse speed, and the tank even has view range to go along with it! Not to mention, when you let the gun aim, its accuracy is also pretty decent. This tank has just about everything you'd want, except for a turret and gun depression, but its strengths far outweigh its weaknesses, and is still one of the best Tier 8 Premium tanks in the game - Especially now with the new equipment providing an Improved Rotation Mechanism. The Improved Rotation Mechanism helps tanks like this a lot, since the gun handling becomes better, aim time becomes better (with the smaller aiming circle) and an already quick-turning tank turns even faster now. It is truly an amazing piece of equipment for a truly amazing tank. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- And there we go, there was a quick rundown of all of the Tier 8 Premium tanks offered in the Footlockers! Is it worth spending the money? Probably not. It's gambling to the extreme, and unlike the Christmas event, many people will be walking away with next-to-nothing during this event. The boxes only become worth it if you get one of the Tier 8 Premiums offered, but even then, most of the Premiums just aren't all that good. There are a few shining stars in the mix, but it's mostly a lot of mediocrity. Unless you have a good amount of disposable income, and you don't own most of the tanks on the list, the boxes simply aren't worth it. And even then, since there's no guarantee of actually getting your money's worth (quite the opposite actually, with most of the boxes being nearly worthless), I would highly advice against buying the boxes. And while it's true you get 3 keys from the 10 box bundle, that's only 3 battles in the WT auf E110 - It's barely anything worth paying attention to, and doesn't really add any meaningful value to the boxes. These footlockers are completely pointless unless you win a decent Tier 8 Premium tank that you didn't already have, which is a small chance and is entirely casino-style gambling, without any of the fun or experience of being in an actual casino.
2020.09.29 01:04 mudpiesnowDo most rich men NOT financially support their beautiful girlfriends prior to marriage?
Don't know about all the other SD's - but I like smart women - students, musicians, professors etc. They don't have money. If you an activist you're not in it for the cash. I can talk business with my guy friends - I don't want to after working all day. And I don't want to talk with a woman who sat by the pool and did her nails either. So a woman engaging her mind will have been busy all day - but not often earning much money. Life has trade offs. How can any multimillionaire guy in good conscience date a beautiful woman at the other end of the financial spectrum (especially for years at a time without marriage) and NOT financially support her with at least a few thousand a month - in good conscience? If she can barely make rent and you live a totally different life - then what? I had dinner recently with a couple guy friends (before the pandemic) in Hollywood - both in their 40's, both athletic good looking alphas with huge careers in entertainment and consulting. On the side one does fashion photography and the other is a signed EDM DJ. They both admitted they support their gorgeous girlfriends to the tune of $3,000-$5,000 per month. That's also what I've always done. It's what marriage used to be in the old days - an understanding the man takes care of his woman. Yet today there's so much stigma even on these forums - and people insisting there is no love involved because it's "sugar." This doesn't compute to me. What exactly do you think a woman's biology is driving her to do in "vanilla" love - find a broke ass scrub? I've argued with my therapist over this issue - who thinks I should not support the women I date. I always have - whether or not I met them on SA. If I didn't - I'd eventually start giving them money anyway. I dated a professor who made $48,000 a year about 7 years ago. We were together for over 5 years. Less than six months in I started giving her cash - which at first she didn't want - but it was simply absurd to me watching her barely cover rent, student loans, gas, food etc. every month while I was rolling in it. We met through friends, she was ridiculously super hot as well as an academic (in the end I wouldn't marry and we broke up years later). But by the end I was giving her a solid $5,000 per month for several years in value - rent on a loft I was never in, and money to cover all her expenses while she went back to school for another degree. This didn't make me feel used - it seemed fair to me. We shared a life together - how would it be sharing a life if I hogged the money and she struggled? That sounds abusive to me. Yet "civilian" people say - "why do you give your girlfriend money?" How is this any different from sugar dating? And again - do any rich men pull super beautiful women off the market for years at a time and NOT financially take care of them? It seems cruel to me to do such a thing if you aren't going to marry the woman. Maybe I'm old fashioned or just crazy.
Would anyone find a discord chat for this group useful or wanted? I dont know enough about discord to set it myself but I know I would love using a June 2021 chat as I am more comfortable in chats than forum posts. Thoughts?
i've been trying to type myself for a year but I am not too sure about what my type is,hope someone can help! •How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself. Hi,I am 16 years old and I identify as agender,but if you want my assigned gender at birth then female. I consider myself an ambitious and hard working person :) •Is there any medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow? Yep! I am diagnosed with BPD,depression,anxiety,and I have some phobias :D •Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it? I grew up in a strict,religious household. My mom forced me and my dad to go to church every sunday and made us pray every night. I rebelled against it since I personally don't believe in God. Because of that,I have a very bad relationship with my mother. I honestly think my upbringing made me act like a stereotypical ISxJ. •If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself,how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed? I'd feel refreshed. I love spending time by myself,for I can watch Youtube videos and scroll through reddit in peace. •What kind of activities do you prefer? Do you like,and are good at sports? Do you enjoy any outdoor or indoor activities? I personally prefer indoor activities over outdoor activities. My brother used to play soccer,and I think that's how my love for soccer started,but I'm not good at it though. The types of activities I enjoy will be on hobbies! •How curious are you? Do you have more ideas than you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about-is it environmental or conceptual,and can you please elaborate? I admit, I used to be way more curious when I was a child than I am right now. My mom always told me to "stop asking too many questions",so I guess that's why I slowly started to stop asking questions. I do have a lot of ideas,but I quickly shut down the ideas that I know won't be possible to actually execute and won't have any useful long term effects. I honestly don't know how to word my ideas,but I'd say they're more to the conceptual side. •Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be? I honestly don't enjoy taking leadership. If I know no one is going to do it though, then I'll gladly do it. I think I'm a decent leader. My leadership style is rational but impatient,for I expect everyone to work efficiently and quickly,which I know isn't always possible. I don't like for people to waste time,and I think I can come across as bossy at times. •Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity. I am not coordinated at all. I am always tripping on air,and I fall down about 3 or 4 times a day because I keep zoning out while walking. I also remember being told by a classmate of mine during middle school that I "didn't walk properly". I mean, I like playing video games, but I suck at them since I have poor eye-hand coordination. •Are you artistic? If yes,describe your art. If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer. I think I am kind of artistic. I love creative writing,for it allows me to think and express my imagination through words,but I get writer's block easily. I like expressing myself through my instrument as well. I believe every melody,every harmony,every beat and every note has a significant meaning to it. •What's your opinion about the past,present and future? How do you deal with them? Sometimes, I think about the me from the past and all the wrong decisions I've made,but I try not to think about it too much. The past already happened,so why dwell on it? The present is boring to me. I ignore the present reality and daydream about future possibilities. •How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you decide to help them,why would you do so? When someone asks me for help,I gladly help them. I like to help others improve,but I get annoyed when I'm explaining something and they're clearly not listening. •Do you need logical consistency in your life? Yep,logical consistency is very important to me. What's the point of having a "good" argument when your data isn't logical? •Do you control others,even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? As I mentioned before, I think I can come across as bossy to other people. I tell people what to do and when to have it done by to save time and avoid distractions. •What are your hobbies? Why do you like them? When I'm not working,eating or sleeping,I like to write,read,listen to music,watch youtube videos,play computer & video games and research interesting stuff. I like writing because,as I mentioned before,it allows for me to use my imagination and express myself. Youtube videos entertain me and make me laugh most of the times. I find computer and video games fun,but as I mentioned,I suck at them. I like researching stuff because I like learning and yea,the stuff I research is pretty interesting to me. Reading helps me escape from reality,for when I'm reading I lose sense of reality. Lastly,listening to music,well,I don't know how to explain honestly. Music is everything to me to be honest. What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with the most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization,logic,creativity,or your physical senses? I struggle with classes that involve physical senses,like gym. I prefer classes that have to do with logic and creativity. Memorization is alright,but I can struggle with this method with classes I am not too interested on,like history. I am an auditory and visual learner. How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? Well,I do both. Hmm,it all depends honestly. If I find the project unimportant and not worth my time,then I wing it and improvise. If the project is important though,then I do the first one. I think I am good at strategizing. I always plan ahead and make sure to have extra plans in case something goes wrong. What are your aspirations in life,professionally and personally? Hmm,professionally,I'd like to go to university and get a degree on either forensics,criminology or psychology. Personally, my aspirations are to improve my public speaking skills and to be more empathetic. •What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why? I have several fears,but the ones that affect me the most are my fear of failure,the fear of swings,fear of abandonment and fear of time. People who are too friendly make me uncomfortable. I hate emotional manipulators and people who don't have to work for their success. •What do the "highs" in your life look like? The highs in my life are very high. I am productive,get things done,determined,responsible and energetic. •What do the "lows" in your life look like? small tw! At my lowest, I am miserable. I am completely apathetic,su1c1dal,moody,unproductive,impulsive,and aggressive. I think that's because of my BPD though. •How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often,or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream,are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? Yep,I daydream quite often. When I daydream, I am aware of my surroundings most of the times,but I choose to ignore them. •Imagine you are alone in a blank,empty room. There is nothing for you and no one to talk to. What do you think about? I'd panick and think about about the butterfly effect, and how all of the mistakes I've made in the past will affect my future. How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? When it comes to important decisions, I am a very decisive person. I don't change my mind easily unless someone else has a logical argument against my decision. How long do you take to process emotions in your life? How important are emotions in your life? I don't find emotions important,but because of my BPD,I end up experiencing them more intensely than most people. •Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why I used to do that when I was younger,for I was a people pleaser and wanted people to like me. As I've gotten older though, I've started to become more honest with myself and now,I only do that when I'm too tired to express what I truly think. Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged,or that they know better? If you do break rules,why? I don't break rules,and if I do,I only break minor rules like "no skipping line,no talking during class and no eating during class." It's not that I agree with the rules,school rules are logically flawed in my opinion,it's just that my mom would get mad at me if I did break the rules. Sorry for any grammar or spelling mistakes in advance.
2020.09.29 00:34 cssmith2011csLooking into learning JS
I got really close to getting this working but OPNsense was making me angry and felt like I should try other options.
Using this method I was able to get the client computer access to the WireGuard connection but for some reason certain packets were not making it through. I set up a new minimal Debian VM and installed Mullvad: wgethttps://mullvad.net/media/app/MullvadVPN-2020.5_amd64.deb apt -y install gdebi-core PATH=/uslocal/sbin:/uslocal/bin:/ussbin:/usbin:/sbin:/bin gdebi /home/peteMullvadVPN-2020.5_amd64.deb To use Mullvad wireguard all you run is: mullvad account set mullvad relay set location us nyc mullvad connect I am not very good with iptables but I did an extensive amount of internet research and testing the last few days on this but almost every solution I have found has the same issue. My favorite set of rules: iptables -A FORWARD -o tun0 -i eth0 -s 192.168.1.6/32 -m conntrack --ctstate NEW -j ACCEPT iptables -A FORWARD -m conntrack --ctstate ESTABLISHED,RELATED -j ACCEPT iptables -A POSTROUTING -t nat -j MASQUERADE These rules will allow the connected computer to be tunneled into the VPN. What works:
Ping (ICMP) of public domains and IP addresses
General web browsing
What isn't working:
Internet speed test uploads
I tried speedtest.net cli on the Debian VM and it is able to perform a successful test. A speedtest on the client computer fails to upload on speedtest.net / speed.cloudflare.com / google.com (Ignore the slow download speed) I don't understand how I am able to perform a HTTP request successfully but not upload any data in a speedtest. To troubleshoot this, I tried logging denies but this didn't get me very far: iptables -A FORWARD -m limit --limit 10/min -j LOG --log-prefix "iptables_FORWARD_denied: " --log-level 4 Please let me know if any of you spot any problems in my implementation or know of any better ways to setup a wireguard gateway! I would also love it if anyone could point out any security concepts I am overlooking!
2020.09.29 00:15 MeandThorneStill confused about Duality
I'm still confused by this. I babysit a little dog at the home Im in. All through my life but especially starting in my early 20s (I am in my early 40s) I began to feel this duality. I actually felt this duality as young as 11 but never any actions except I used to tell my sister I was going to die and then comforted her when she cried. I just really started to notice it in my 20s. The little dog the other day had to go to the bathroom. She usually uses a pee pee pad. I had a thought to let her pee outside real quick by the back door. Its right behind the building and near the driveway and is a blind spot for cars. I love animals. I do not want them hurt. Anyway, I thought I heard a car coming. I let her run a little on purpose in case a car was coming and then grabbed her quickly so she wouldn't get hit. The car wasn't near us but its just that fight I have with myself, that dualiry. There has been similar instances. These instances have happened maybe 15 times or so since my 20s. I dont lose time. I always am aware of the duality going on at the time. I believe that people can be one identity and have very conflicting feelings. Does anyone experience this type of stuff? If you believe I should post this on another forum because it fits better there, please direct me there.
So I'm in a strange predicament and I figured here is really my only forum to turn. I need some input, thoughts, advice, really any of it is welcome here. 5 weeks ago I started therapy, and I absolutely loved my therapist. I left feeling accomplished, like I was really heading in the right direction. (This is also in combination with seeing my psych doctor, too.) Upon my initial visit meeting my therapist, I was upfront and open about my recreational drug use. I am WELL AWARE that my behavior was not being condoned, although I was told that if it was not habitual or not being used as a coping mechanism, it wasn't necessarily a "problem", but just something to monitor and pay attention to - so to speak. So here I am, 5 weeks later, I get a call during the MIDDLE of my work day from my therapist. She tells me she will no longer be able to help me or see me, and she recommends that I go to an inpatient drug abuse program. I am absolutely appalled. I am insulted. I am frustrated and quite frankly - confused. First off, why did she not express this concern to me upon not just my initial visit, but the four fucking visits that followed. Instead, I get a phone call DURING WORK, stating that this simply just won't work anymore. Am I overreacting? My head is just honestly all over the place and I really wanted some kind of feedback.
2020.09.28 23:53 greenpillows4PSA to the daddies in this group: YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND THIS PODCAST IS TOXIC IF YOU'RE STILL FIGURING YOURSELF OUT!
Reading some of these posts is making me sad. I read through this forum every day because I have a job in this industry and genuinely used to love the podcast (haven't listened since Sofia left). The entertainment value/stories were HILARIOUS. Some of the sex advice is pretty funny. But seriously girls, picture me with a goddamn megaphone when you read the next thing: I am 32 and I have BEEN THERE, trust me. I know what it's like to be totally in love with someone, trust them, not think someone is going to hurt you, assume decency from people, think random nudes etc are not a big deal, think sexting/DM flirting/following other chicks on IG is not a big deal etc. IT IS A BIG FUCKING DEAL. AND YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO SET BOUNDARIES AND BE PISSED. I wanted to write this post after reading through a thread I was participating on about a girl whose boyfriend cheated on her. She casually mentioned wanting to replace a video of herself blowing him with a better one on his phone -- that's how she found out he was cheating. I had to literally stand up and look around in disbelief. Do you guys know what kind of pickmeisha shit this is???? I am saying this as someone who has done a lot of degrading things with men over the years. Nudes, filming sex (on my own phone but still), sex in public, embarrassing texting crap, letting the guy follow random girls on IG, etc. Never again. Take it from me, ladies...there is ZERO (and I mean zero) dick worth the pain and suffering you will endure if you let someone take away your dignity. I don't care if he's rich, famous, hot, the most popular guy you know, etc etc etc. You will end up feeling terrible about yourself if you let someone degrade you, and those scars can take years to heal. Some common things I see on this sub that IMO are not acceptable:
Following random whores on Instagram, especially if they are "real life" people vs. random underwear influencers. You know that sinking feeling you get when you see your guy followed some girl who lives in your city and has zero connection to your friend group? That's your gut telling you SHIT IS NOT RIGHT. There is NO reason a guy you're dating seriously should be following girls on Instagram who aren't in your friend group or his coworkers. Come at me if you disagree, but every single time I've smelled smoke, there was fire.
Sending nudes that include your face. Just no. I don't care if your guy is Jesus-level perfect. All men below a certain threshold of maturity (like, younger than your grandpa) show their friends and keep those nudes forever.
Filming sex acts. Do not do it. You're not a porn star. It does not make you cool or chill.
Tolerating "best female friends." Bitch, no. Just no. Female friends are fine, BEST friends, unless she's a lesbian or a childhood sibling-like friend, bad news written all over it. For me, I draw the line at, is he calling this girl up to hang out one on one without me on a regular basis? Then sis, it's time to pull back on that friendship. just reverse the situation. I had a guy I was dating get in a fight with me over my male friends and it really showed me that opposite sex besties are not okay. He put up with it until we were fighting about something else, and then he absolutely exploded. It showed me that neither of us should be having best friends of the opposite sex. It's not respectful.
Sexting/flirting on any digital platform with any girl from the past. Nope.
I'm sure there are more but I have to end this post and do work.
2020.09.28 23:42 recursive_while_loopI’m so unimaginably happy
TLDR: Live your live to the fullest, GROW, ignore the naysayers, your life is sooo long, there’s always time to find someone to love again, don’t be afraid to embrace all the other aspects of existence! You’ll be in a far better relationship after that I’m sure of it! I hope my journey will motivate some of you to live your life a little more. I’m speechless! Six months ago I was sitting on a train to go to a mountain cliff to jump off from. I was on pro-suicide forums. I called my best friend and he forced me to go to the emergency room and be put under observation at the psych ward. I got psychiatric help. I went on sick leave from work. I moved in with my friends. All I managed was lying on the couch and watch Netflix, cry and smoke 1-2 packs of cigarettes every day. I felt completely purposeless, I toggled between being unable to eat at all or eat 2-3 Ben & Jerry containers. I started walking 20 km every day until my legs gave up on me. I had blisters below my blisters on my feet. Every single millisecond of the day I was thinking of my ex. Our needs just didn’t align, I couldn’t even hate her... I knew I had two choices, eventually kill myself over the loss or live to my absolute maximum potential. I switched jobs to an awesome startup - doubled my salary, I am studying to become a massage therapist on the side. I reconnected with my dad after years of pain. I’m hitting the gym HARD, I am loosing weight, eating super healthy, doing meal prep so I can focus my energy on other things. In January I’m going to have a six pack for the first time in almost 29 years of life; a teenage dream I never had the discipline to achieve before now. I’m boxing like never before, doing homebrew with friends, switched to snus from cigarettes, CrossFit, game development. I’m talking to cute girls even tho I am not ready or interested in dating yet, there’s so much work left to be done! I always thought that people who say they don’t want to date are just in denial, boy oh boy was I wrong! I can’t see how I’d fit that into my current self discovery phase. I am way more social than ever before, honestly the list goes on... I’m incrementally adding/removing things and reflecting over my week in my journal so that I won’t burn myself out. I’m reading books to work on the things that I feel I was bad at in the relationship and talk to older, more mature friends that I look up to and want to grow into. And to my ex: This was by far the most terrible experience of my life, and I had a HARD one, you know that. But I am so grateful... so grateful for the time with you, but also for the breakup. Thank you ❤️ I would never have bothered to force growth and inner happiness on this level if it hadn’t literally been a life or death situation. And with all my heart I hope you are growing massively too. You never tried to hurt me intentionally and I have no negative feelings towards you, we just were at different places in our development and needs. But that doesn’t mean I would take you back now. That would require tremendous change in you, and I am not sure you’re cut from the same cloth as I am. I can’t honestly say I don’t still hope that you are and change too. But I’m happier now than ever, and I don’t “need” you anymore. I’ll probably always love you, but I’m a much wiser man now, I know I’ll love again, and when that time comes that lucky person is gonna be speechless over having me in her life 🥰
2020.09.28 23:35 ButWutAboutTheDogsBut.... the Jealousy
This is long and all over the place, and maybe not the right forum, but Im thinking that I have the best shot of finding people here who share my situation. I just need to vent, and hopefully get some advice. My SO is still in love with BM. He told me this way back when we first started dating. The break up was not a simple one, and was BM's choosing, resulting in several months of SO trying to reconcile things. SO and I started dating casually for awhile. After some time, I fell hard and things moved rather quickly. SO has 2 boys 5M & 6M who I adore and we all get along very well. Due to circumstances outside of his control, he no longer had a place to stay with the boys and having been a SAHD for most of the boys lives, was/is only working a minimum wage job. In an effort to fix the problem, and not see him lose his kids, I moved him and his children in with me (shared custody - a few days a week). BM was HC and if you see my other posts, you will see that things have not been great there. Recently, BM & SO have started being able to communicate. Where he used to vent to me about everything she said and did, they now text several times a week or even several times a day and he never shares with me what they are texting about any longer. He assures me that what he & BM had is over, and that he is just trying to coexist and be friendly with her for the sake of the boys. He swears that even if she begged for him back at this point what he & I have is more important and he would never return... So why is my anxiety on high alert? How do I resolve this? Do I ask to be a part of all their communication going forward or is that too pushy? Never in a million years would I be okay with somebody I dated to be friends with their ex, but this is the first guy I've dated with kids, and that changes things. I dont know what to think anymore. I have no kids on my own. Does anybody have any suggestions on how to successfully navigate this in a relationship, or been in a similar situation?
2020.09.28 23:09 throwaway019236I was a troll on the internet and now im scared my past might cancel me in the future
Hi there. I have a really serious concern and I'd appreciate it if someone could offer some advice. when I was a teenager around 15-17 I was a part of "stan twitter" and was a fan of a popular band/celebrity. In my real life, i grew up in a pretty conservative and religious household, this insight is important for later on. I trolled on two twitter accounts that are famous in the fandom. People in this fandom would recognize my first @ and my other @ right away. The first account i actually shared with another fan after it got some attention she came into my DMs and offered to run it with me. and when she said racist stuff i decided to jump ship and create my 2nd account. But it was MY real name used on this first account. The 2nd account is not any better although i didnt say my name i did say my race and country of origin (and people connected the dots and realized i was probably running the first account). this account got suspended as well. However screenshots of me threatening to doxx my favorite celebrity (a fake threat as i could never do this) and wishing death on a celebrity that was a competitor of the celebrity i liked (i know crazy stuff) still exist on the internet I also said some cringey sexual stuff which brings me back to my point about being raised in a conservative household. i had discovered nc-17 fanfiction of the band around this time and went wild on my fan account talking about sexual stuff i would love to do with my favorite celebrity (sexual harrassment, and non consent jokes). i know this is a lot.... and its incredibly embarrassing, and im so apalled and ashamed by all of it. words cannot express how much of a 180 this is to who i am today as a grown person in my 20's i could never imagine saying any of the heinous things i did in the past as a twitter troll. i plan to go into the entertainment business as a producer and im scared that my past will be brought to light to shame and cancel me. and the worst part is, im probably going to cross paths with the celebrity i wished death on (which i wholeheartedly respect! and would never ever want bad things to happen to them! in fact they're a big inspiration to me and im realizing now the passionate feelings of love and hate i had for these celebrities is what inspired me to be in the field i am in today). if that happens, where i cross paths with these celebs, it wont be hard to put two and two together with who i used to be on the internet since fans of these celebritys are sleuths and will recognize the name, race, origin of country of who i am. if theres ever a video or photo of me and these celebrities in the same picture or event or business endeavor they'll know right away. i dont know what to do at this point.. i purged and deactivated as much as i could but there are articles, forums, screenshots, and i cannot access social media accounts linked to my twitter since its deactivated to get rid of more trails. i dont know what to do. im anxious and scared, embarrassed, and i feel like i can never make it in this world or die happily knowing a disgusting second life on the internet exists since its forever.
2020.09.28 22:55 SexyCatoWhat is your least favorite ship/list to go against?
Feeling bored after having scoured the forums for something similar to this. What ships and lists make you frustrated beyond compare? Please elaborate on why as well, I love hearing all of your thoughts and opinions :]
2020.09.28 22:24 netpavelMy Journey to get my 40 years old dumb home somewhat smart!
First of all thank you for this forum and many other online blogs, which helped me to get here. I am definitely not done with my setup, but I thought it is time to share some of the updates. NB: My findings are based on my personal experience and not a review as a whole. Before I began adding the first device this was my setup:
It is a 40 years old house with very old wirings
The electrical box was last updated/worked on back in 1993
All the light fixtures and switches are dumb
There was an ADT wired security system (installed in 2003) with wall panel. I never subscribed. It was used by the previous owner for couple of years.
This is how I started:
First thing I changed at my home is to get rid of the old Honeywell Thermostat to Nest Gen 3 learning thermostat. I like the ability to control the furnace from phone.
The installation instruction in Nest App is a breeze. It took me 10 min to install and get going.
My experience is: Nest app works like a charm. But Google home app is not very good/intuitive to use.
I like how the nest thermostat looks and feels. I also like how I can change the temp by asking google.
But honestly, I do not like the Nest Thermostat functionally. It is not able to play with other smart devices. It does not even work well with Google's own devices such as Nest protect.
The thermostat is normally stable. But whenever there is a new update, the thermostat goes offline and fails to come back up. This situation, I had to restart and then manually charge the thermostat to get going.
The Thermostat will lose smart ability if the battery voltage goes below 3.8v. I hear a common (c) wire is needed. Unfortunately, my 18 year old furnace did not come with one.
One will think Nest Thermostat can read temperature off Nest protect and use it to regulate heat. One will be mistaken.
Google does not share data with other devices. They only share you search history and where you go with companies who will pay.
I would probably change to Ecobee Thermostat at one point. But I got a very cheap deal on Nest. So going with it for now.
Like many people, my 2nd take on smart home was Lighting. I chose Lifx A19 bulbs mainly for two reasons:
I like how vibrant and bright they are (1100lm compared 800lm for other bulbs like Hue, Wyze)
I like that no hub is needed (I was not sure what hub to get. So many options out there)
I started by changing all my floor lamps and table lamps to Lifx and loved how easy they are to setup.
The installation is as easy as plugging in the light and launch the app to setup. Takes about 2 min per light. The Lifx app is pretty good and stable for basic functions.
I have also used a Lifx Z strip around my desk for some cool mood lighting. Honestly if you work late and can spare some bucks, I strongly recommend getting these cool lights.
Beware, the Lifx Z should not be moved once installed. They connector pins are very delicate. If you bend it even a small bit, the lights will start to fail.
Another Light I have purchased is the Nanoleaf Shapes wall panels. I like how these lights work with music. The controller has a built in mic for music sync.
Nanoleaf too is a WiFi controlled light. The installation is easy but requires some patience. There are some instructional videos to help along.
I also added couple of Taloya LED ceiling lights. These are Wifi controlled and very bright. 12" ceiling light is 24W and has 2000lm. You can chance the color temp for white light and set color LED for mood lighting.
Each of the lights have their own apps. They also work with Google home and Apple Homekit (except for Taloya).
In two rooms I am using occupancy sensors for automatically turning lights. See below in sensors section for details.
I also used some smart switches to control these. One problem with smart light is if you turn off the physical switch, the light loses the smart function. So what you really need is a switch with relay off capability. (see Switch section)
Issues with Lighting:
Initially I did not have a good Wifi coverage in every corner of the house. Lifx will not behave if you do not have proper clean signal. My ISP's modem was not powerful enough, so I had to get my own mesh network routers.
Lifx lights are awesome and can change colors. But the Android app is not well designed. In fact, if you check the iphone app, the music visualizer looks lot different. iPhone has a better app with more/better controls for music visualization.
Another problem with Lifx is there is no good music visualizer than the iphone app. Unless you always want your house to look like disco ball, iphone lifx app is the only decent solution in my opinion. I tried (Light DJ, Thundr, LampShade, iLightShow, and native Lifx app).
Nanoleaf light panels had connectivity issues at the beginning. But recent updates solved it and they are my favourite lights now.
As soon as I installed my thermostat and few lights, I realized my ISPs router does not have the range to support my devices.
First issue I had was where my ISPs router was freezing and I had to manually restart every few days.
When the ISP changed the router to a stronger model, I found it does not have strong signal everywhere. For example I have a floor lamp in a corner of the room. Which was too far away for the signal. Also anything outside the outdoor wall had poor connectivity.
So I looked for a decent WiFi router with at least 1 LAN port for my LAN bridge.
I went with Asus RT92U mesh router. It has 4x1Gbps LAN port and 3 bands.
3rd band of the router is WiFi6 and can be used as backhaul.
Since rest of the good routers were too expensive (almost double the price), I went with RT92U.
I plan to change this router in few years when WiFi6 router and devices become more common place.
The router is decent, but if you hare a heavy data user, make sure you setup schedule for weekly restart.
I think there are routers available in the market now which has all 3 bands WiFi6 capable.
I have turned my ISP router into a gateway and using the routing functionality in the Asus.
I get full 1Gbps internet on my mesh node upstairs, which is awesome.
Before you ask this, yes, I do frequently download/upload large files which needs high speed internet.
In my experience, with two node working in mesh, I get decent coverage throughout inside the house. The coverage is not so good outside the outdoor wall.
Next item I got after upgrading Wifi is the Nest Hello Doorbell Camera. I decided to go with nest since I heard from few friends that the picture quality was better than Ring or Wyze.
Also I wanted a doorbell which is stable. Since, Google knows everything about our life now, I guess it is okay for them to know which neighbours cat is walking through my front porch, right? ;)
Honestly, I am not very happy with Nest Doorbell for number of reasons.
It often goes offline. Happens almost every week at random hours. I even tried to have the router setup 2 feet away from the doorbell. Same results.
But the doorbell works well when it works. The pictures are crisp and detailed. Good resolution
I could never get the Nest Hello to work with Google Home app. It works perfect with Nest app.
Also this does not work with other devices like smart light/smart lock
I have an old Nest account, so I have nest aware gen 1 subscription. I find Gen 1 nest aware is a good value for single camera setup.
I wanted a central hub to control everything in my house. I was not able to find any solution that can bring in everything together. But the closest one with a good community support is Hubitat. Specially their latest C7 offering seems to be very stable and works well for my setup.
Since I needed a Z-Wave, Zigbee hub for some of the light switches I planned to install, I chose Hubitat.
You may ask, why didn't I go with all WiFi solution. In my experience, WiFi 5 is not able to handle large amount of connected devices and WiFi 6 is not mature enough. Almost smart WiFi devices use 2.4GHz band. Which is not very stable when many of your neighbours are blasting WiFi signals from all around.
Switch for lights:
Anyone who has a smart light already knows the woes of someone turning off the light switch and you cannot control the light anymore.
Not matter how smart your housemates are, they may not be keen on installing the apps in their phone.
So I needed a Switch that can disable the relay to the light.
Another thing I was looking for is a light that works without neutral wire. As mentioned in the previous section, my house is very old and wiring is old.
Initially I thought the panels dont have neutral wires. I just didnt see them. But they were in the panel hidden behind many wires. One Licensed electrician helped me find those.
Anyway, I went with Inovelli Zwave S2 Dimmer Switch since it had good reviews. It also has both disable internal relay option and ability to work without neutral wire.
I could not get it to work without neutral Wire! So finding the neutral wire in the back, was a happy surprise.
Once connected with the neutral, the switch works like a charm
press the button3 8 times to disable internal relay and setup automation in hubitat to turn on/off the smart light.
I am very Happy with it.
However, when used with a dumb LED light, the switches were disappointment.
I have bunch of LED pot light in the kitchen and in the Hallway. I found Inovelli makes a buzzing sound for both cases in the switch. When contacted the seller, they wanted me to send the Switch back for warranty claim. But the unit was working with smart switch, so I did not send back.
For dumb lights, I have found Zooz ZEN27 dimmer and ZEN26 on/off switches work like a charm. there is no buzzing sound. The light switches are very responsive as well. Works will with Hubitat
I wanted to also add some smart fire/smoke/CO alarms. So I went with nest protect.
To be honest, the only reason I went with nest protect is they work with Nest Thermostat.
One problem is Nest protect "Does Not" work with Google Home app. You will need nest app for them.
They are working well so far. I like the automated monthly fire alarm test. The units also work like a dim light in the dark. It is enough light for a quick trip to washroom door.
August Lock WiFi:
I have also found August lock WiFi to be a good lock. I have it only on one door for now. Good thing is nobody from outside can tell it is smart lock. Also you can use the original keys.
WiFi connectivity is a hit or miss. About 90% time it works and fast. Rest 10% is frustration.
Also it does not work with Nest Hello. Which means you need to open yet another app to open the door.
Opening August app is faster than telling google to open, since Google asks for pin
I am still not sure if I trust the security on this. So will not install on all outdoor doors for now.
Smart Garage Door Opener:
I have a 12 years old Genie power garage door opener. You can guess, there is no smart about it.
So I went and bough a cheap WiFi relay for garage door opener from Meross. It is for a manufacturer in China. The instructions were in Chinese, but I was able to find an English version online that worked for me.
Once I connected the 35$ device into meross app, it worked like a charm. I can tell you right now, this is the best connected device I own. All those expensive Google, Lifx, Nanoleaf, hubitat etc failed to connect at least once. But I never had any issues with this garage door opener.
Very happy purchase. This also works with Google home and IFTTT.
I have couple of smart power strips from Kasa. They work very well so far. I had never have any connectivity issues.
This is the only cheap smart power strip I could find in Amazon. That's why I bought them.
Ah yes, the eyes of smart home. I have two types of sensors.
Inovelli Z-Wave 4in1 sensor:
This is very good and easy to setup.
Peel off and press down where you want it to be placed.
One problem is the sensors do not have a wide reach.
I have the sensor installed under a door. It does not detect me more than 5 feet away from the door.
But it does detect me when I am getting in the room and sends a signal to turn on the lights.
It also detects Luminance and can be used to slowly turn on the lights
Hardwired ADT sensor:
I have a sensor installed by ADT. I am using that as occupancy sensor in one room to run some smart automation. More details in next section.
Converting the old ADT sensors to smart sensor:
Luckily my home came pre-wired with ADT open/close sensors in all doors and windows
It also came with a siren and occupancy sensor.
This occupancy sensor works better than Inovelli and has a wider reach.
When I opened the box for ADT, I found there is 6-zone configured from back in 2003.
So I went and bought a 6 zone Konnected panel. I decided to go with conversion panel. I really did not want to use ADT's subscription.
Konnected panel requires a WiFi to work with and hub to get the data in. It integrates nicely with Hubitat and shows the door open/close information. You can also control the siren and see occupancy.
I did not find any con on this. This is just a bonus and saved me from buying bunch of other sensors.
Bringing it all together and automating:
What's the point of smart home if there is no automation right?
I used Hubitat, Google Home and IFTTT for my automation
Hubitat is used as a central hub for all kind of monitoring and switching.
Most of the smart automation rules are also sitting there.
Manual Driver's for hubitat:
I had to find and install manual driers for following items (just search hubitat forum)
Inovelli Dimmer Red Series
Kasa Multi Plug
Konnected: driver required for each type of devices
Things that do not work with Hubitat had to go work with Google Home:
Nanoleaf Light panel
All Google Nest products
in-floor heater thermostat
Meross Garage door opener
Taloya Ceiling light
Then I have used IFTTT to connect the Google home connected devices to Hubitat through virtual device option.
IFTTT works well but could be bit slow to respond compared to Hubitat or Google home connected devices
Useful Automations I have:
Turn on outdoor lights and living room lights at Sunset
Turn off lights at certain time of the day
Use the occupancy sensors to turn on/off lights at night
Use the occupancy sensors to set certain temperature at certain time of the day
Turn on/off lights when front door or garage door opens
turn lights red flash and ring siren in case of fire/CO/smoke
Alert me when certain doors left open at night for long time
Alert me when Packages are left in the front door
Intruder alert and siren when I am away
When I set out to do all these above, I spent numerous hours figuring out what to buy and what to install. I hope this helps anyone new in home automation get a snapshot of what is involved. If you can do this, you life would be little bit easier. Also I noticed my electricity bill went down little bit. Thats a bonus, right? TLDR: I have listed all the different smart devices I have and tried out. Google and I have a complicated relationship! Thank you Home Automation geeks for helping me getting this far.
2020.09.28 21:43 LightningsHeartMake more attractive characters before it's too late. [no spoilers]
Design better characters Bioware to be attractive to EVERYONE. People aren't playing your game to be "normal" stop making characters "normal". We all know Bioware used to be the best character game writers around. So what happened? Cole for example was basically an after thought. This Ghoulish Rogue looks like an average farmhand. While Dorian looks like Freddy Mercury! Were they designed by different people? What is this!? Hire better writers and designers if you need to. The writing in general of the last two Bioware games is diving off a cliff in almost every aspect. If you continue to make boring characters in looks and personality you will fail (ME:A & Anthem, were a mess). If your next game's characters can't compare to the Witcher's, ME: Trilogy, or DAO you might as well pack up now because we all know what on the line. I used to love Bioware and I certainly hope it doesn't fail, but this small fanbase can't keep you afloat forever. EA won't allow another "niche" game like Anthem became. https://www.gamezone.com/news/dragon-age-inquisition-player-stats-revealed-3412137/ Stats for the curious for what I mean by "EVERYONE". Recently it was also revealed that Bioware's forums and this reddit are a vocal minority what you guys want is not what's best for Bioware's future. I know I'll get downvoted for this, but I actually care about the future of Bioware that's why I'm willing to put myself out there to tell you guys and Bioware how normal people who don't frequent these forums think.
2020.09.28 21:42 pdvanilType me based on my answers
I confused the day one I entered in to mbti. I want to know my type I think you can help. • How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself. A) I am 24 years old male. I am working as a software developer. My hobbies are reading books, listening music. • Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow? A) I didn't think I have any medical stability. But I think I have moderate amount of social anxiety. If it considered medical diagnosis. • Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it? A) I grown up in middle class family. My family is religious. I grown up my most of life in my aunt house away from my family because lack of proper schooling. There might be attachment issues. I still feel somewhat distant to everyone, not really allowing to know. I didn't do it deliberately. So yeah. • What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? A) I work as a software developer, and I do like it. Because it's really satisfying to solve problems. I love solving complex. Whatever makes my head think. Its a good one. • If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed? A) I don't feel lonely at all. Yeah I do feel refreshed. • What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities? A) its really a question to me because I really don't like doing activities. Most of my teenage years I have been outgoing guy. Because I used to live in my aunt house I try not to stay home most of the time. So I made cricket as a hobie. But other than that I don't have much activities. I think after my college years I started coding. Its mainly my activity now. • How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate? A) I think I am curious about everything, I feel like I want to know everything. But there is no enough time. But I don't think I am explosion of ideas. There are times I obsessed with ideas philosophy. But most my day would be I think of project doing and try to acquire that knowledge. And try to complete the project. • Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be? A) I don't think I enjoy leading. I am not people person. I good at dealing with ideas or problem solving but it's really hard to deal with people. • Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity? A) if you might say that taking different aspects of ideas or solutions merging to make a thing or project maybe I am. I am not good at working with hands on. • Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer. A) I think I am not artistic. • What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them? A) I don't think of past too much. I can't stay in present. I am always in my head thinking about future. Which is very hard sometimes to me to be stay alert to the surroundings. Which get me in to trouble like unheard conversation and you have to follow up. • How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so? A) I am kind of guy who set boundaries upfront not be rude. But whenever somebody ask help I willing to help them. • Do you need logical consistency in your life? A) maybe I need more information and analysis in my own thinking. I like to make hypothesis, but often times i don't have enough information to make a decision. So maybe I should be decisive. I don't know. • How important is efficiency and productivity to you? A) I think i prefer efficient than productivity. • Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? A) I don't like controlling. Despite I didn't like people who do it. • What are your hobbies? Why do you like them? A) I don't have hobbies much. I like to read if bored I watch videos. I like to work on personal projects. • What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses? A) I like learning, where I can set my schedule and I can take care my curriculum. Its like attending online course pre recorded. Which is best because you can go on your own pace. Its really great how much can learn by yourself. And I don't like traditional education system. • How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? A) I think I am not that good strategist. My working process looks like this. I have an idea so I will first think of the resources I need and I will see whether these resources are good for project or not, then if all acquired and I think it's I have all possibilities than I will start the project. If something happens in middle I will plan accordingly. • What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally? A) my aspiration in life to build something inspiring. Professionaly and personally if it helps what I make it would satisfying. • What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why? A) I am not good at social interactions. I can do anything I can solve any kind of problem, when comes to simple ability to talk I feel awkward. Make me anxious. Its uncomfortable. But I am working on it. • What do the "highs" in your life look like? A) my moods are stable. It doesn't change much. • What do the "lows" in your life look like? A) my low would be like feeling existential and depressed going to the point what the point of anything. • How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? A) I daydream a lot. But most of the time I do something I forwarde my focus to it. I mostly unaware I say but not so bad. • Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about? A) I just thinking to myself. what I am doing in a empty room and nobody's there. And realising that's where I am right now. Thinking about myself. • How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? A) I fairly confident when a decision is made. I think alot when making decision. Once I made it, I will stick to it. • How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life? A) I don't know, they really disturb me. I feel like they are irradiational. If I had a feeling that disturbing I take some time to work on it. • Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why? A) sometimes it because I don't agree with them, its just that I can hear anymore, it's like you don't energy to concentrate and you somehow want to leave but you think it's rude. • Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why? A) I love breaking rules. I don't like authority because I have problem with authority from childhood. I think always rebel against the authority.
2020.09.28 21:35 Emo_MachineCould you help me with my type, please? I don't know what it is, exactly.
How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I'm 18 years old woman and I'm not a native-speaker, so I apologize for any dumb mistakes in advance. People irl would probably describe me as introspective, empathetic, honest and responsible.
Is there a medical diagnosis that impact your mental/comportamental stability somehow?
Yeah, it's my crippling depression. I believe this is the reason, why I can't pin it down. Other than that, I suffered from social anxiety before. I'm not sure if I should use -ed and before, because I do struggle from it even today, but it did get significantly better, that's for sure.
Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
Well, when I was younger, I was the happiest kid alive. I would always go outside to play with other children and get back home at 9pm. Little did Emo_Machine know, that actually her father was a psychopath and his inability to care about her issues and his overambitious ideas will bring her suffering in many years to come. For me, he was just a guy living in my apartment, because he didn't spend any time with me. But for some reason I was trying to impress him. I would go along with his plans for me. I wasn't really thinking if this is truly what I want to do in the future. Any minor mistake was always treated like a disaster.
If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
This question is kinda funny, because if you asked anyone who knows me irl if I would be lonely, they would say that I would be extremely happy. But actually... I don't know. I think I'm somewhat an ambivert or something. I sometimes feel very energized after spending time with people and I could spend hours with them, but sometimes I don't. Maybe my childhood in previous question could be a clue.
Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
When I was younger I liked to draw a lot. I had a bunch of ideas for a book, it was always a dystopian/psychological thriller. I like to create icons/banners and similar in photoshop and create edits. When it comes to what kind of art I enjoy... I definitely enjoy a bit of glitchy/disturbing(?) music, an industrial metal? It's better to just show you the examples than describe it endlessly: 3TEETH - Antiflux, 3TEETH - Atrophy, KMFDM - Megalomaniac.
What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I don't think about the past at all. I only do it, when I have to provide an explaination for where did my issues come from etc. I don't think about it mostly, because I can't really regret anything I've ever did. I had in total 3 of complete mindset change, so there is no way I would change my decision. I would not only need a different mindset but also bunch of information which I wasn't provided. Alright, maybe there are exceptions where I do, but most of the important decisions which were wrong over time, I can't regret them. They did shape me more as a person and I'm here the way I am because of them. I guess I think most of the time about the present. Here's a bit of disclaimer though: recently, my mental health's became so low I kinda reduced my ambitions and plans. I try my best to only think about what I have to do, what I want to do at the moment etc. Previously, I did think a whole lot about the future, because I loved to daydream about it. I loved to daydream about how my life will look like when I finally achieve my dreams.
What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
I've became quite cynical recently. On one hand, I believe this is some progress, because previously I was super naive of the world around me. You could say, I feel like "I finally see things for what they are". But on the other hand, I'm still afraid of being mean to others. Even if I stopped to torture myself for not being kind enough, I'm still afraid of becoming evil. I feel like I need to be on guard about it. I did have a bit of savior complex before, so I think my worries are reasonable. I'm scared of being attached to people, because I don't want them to leave me. I know it doesn't make sense, I can't ever fall in love if I don't get attached to another person and I always wished to get married someday, so I have to get over it somehow. I'll look into it.
How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
I definitely prefer to organize over improvise. I'm not always quick to respond, so when something unexpected happens my brain crashes. I helped my friends a lot with planning something and I've been told that I'm good at it, so I believe this is true.
How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
Depends on the decision. If it's about some emergancy situation I can think clearly and decide quickly. When it comes to what kind of career I want though, I could wonder for ages.
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